Real VS. Rude

The definition of what's "real" is so hazy. stop and think to yourself, what's real?... not you or anyone else in this world. we are all flawed beings. some maybe being real that they speak their minds and express how they feel while others may see real as being brutally honest and speaking before thinking with no regard to others feelings. Now are they being real or just rude as fuck? i would like to argue this coined term "real" because i don't think many know what it is nor how to act in a "real" manner. let me not get ahead of myself, yes i have talked piles of shit behind others back and smiling in their face also have said things i didn't mean and have no acted in the most honest way, along with that don't for a second sit back and say you haven't because we are all guilty. but the difference between fake and i is that i realize that i know i am not a perfect being and will own up to what i have done/said with no issue. i may not say things to people's face at times but if they ask i shall tell. simple as that. Those who pride themselves on putting others down either behind their back on in their face are not real they just are mean people. for some talking shit really does make them feel better or hold themselves to a higher regard when they know the other individual will not say anything back. Like the ones who will go out of their way to hurt someone with words or action with spite. im talking about the ones who say they are "over the bullshit and immature things" but continuously talk about how there is bad things and people around them..... sounds like a personally problem you have let everyone know about and still haven't don't anything about. hm. so this makes that person not only rude as fuck, mean, but also an idiot for aired dirty laundry that will not be clean for awhile. this isn't geared towards anyone specifically but merely an observation. i suppose the definition of real can vary from one person to another. so MY definition of real is being yourself and not a chameleon depending on who you are around, it's knowing who you are and what you believe. honesty not mean and assertive not aggressive towards others. it's being aware of what you want need believe despite the influences around you. so what are you .. real or rude?? because there is a difference