Don't be a Sucker

i really don't want to be that blogger who is always bashing a man or talking up big shit to make myself feel better, i actually don't even want to blog about anything related to the male species anymore BUT for the sake of some of my readers in need, this is for you =) though this might not be exactly what you were looking for, i hope you can find some peace and harmony within it

Just to give you a blunt idea of where i stand in my life right now. My boyfriend who i was totally goo goo ga ga over recently left me for his ex.. got married and ish whole 9 yards all in the matter of like a month, maybe? so i would say that it is safe to say i am in no state to be that happy go lucky girl. Thankfully, In the past couple weeks i have had to opportunity to really reflect and accept and move the fuck on with things


I strongly urge everyone to do the same because you are only digging yourself a bigger and deeper emotionally filled hole that you are already in. yeah yeah easier said than done right? FACT: shit happens and we all go through it heartbreaks and douche bags are inevitable but the way we deal/move on from these kinds of things are up to US! favorite quote ive heard through everything is "Is he crying over you???.... no?? so why should you?"

Who really wants to be with a little ass kid that doesn't know what they are doing with their lives let alone in a relationship with you? No girls wants to be the one taking care of her man super lowkey and spending half their time justifying their "man's" misfortunes to everyone... there is a name for girls like us, coined by my friend lexx we are called FIXERS. We are the girls who will ride and die for the lowest of the lows because our hearts have grown so fond of these guys their 'love' out weighs anything and everything. Girls like us get so wrapped up in helping and trying to fix their problems that through time we get dragged right down with them. We care too much that's what it is. the dummys who put up with so much for so little in exchange. i used to talk so badly about that kind of girl, until i fell in the trap!!! aayyye don't talk shit unless you've done cause saying and doing are two completely different things, believe that. I say fuck you to the guys do nothing with their lives and take full advantage to the girl giving her all while you sit back participate half assed. It took two really shitty relationships for me to figure this one out but i thing i finally got the big picture. writing this im trying to find the fine line between a sucker for love and a flat out sucker. i believe that the difference between the two understand the when they are helping and when they are being used along with the ability to walk away from the situation when those lines are crossed and not look back. Love is blind, we all know this but when you can wake up one morning and say "im off that" your headed in the right direction. A sucker is one who knows they are in a shitty relationships and allows it to happen. When a steady pattern of shadiness persists and you do nothing about it. fill in the blanks however you like the, you get the idea.


ok so there is like 7 billion people in this world and 305 million in the US alone.. i strongly believe in the saying there is more fish in the sea..BIG ASS SEA WITH LOTS-O-FISH. with that, why would you let anyone, especially a guy get you all down and out, having you isolated in crib weekends at a time, sitting in you room all night listening to sappy love songs stuffing your face with hot cheetos crying (that's real life son). lets face it if he left you.. he did it for a reason baby girl and that's truth. And it might not because he moved on to better he probably just moved on to dumber. There's that and it could be because he doesn't have the mental capacity to love and understand it all, not saying woman are but were trying...right? And if he lied, it's probably because he is too coward to speak the truth and know you will leave him if you find out whats real... and if he cheated (God forbid) its not because you weren't giving him what he needed, he is proving to you that he is in no way physically or emotionally apt for a monogamous relationship which by the way is NOT what anyone (male or female) needs in their life DISCLAIMER: this does not apply to all men because there are definitely crazy beezys who need to be left and bring these kinds of disasters on themselves. but whatever the reason maybe, he is no longer there and that is the first thing you gotta accept

Moral of the story: Your better than ALL that..stay up, look forward, and move on